"Us against Em"
Thursday, November 24, 2005

The mentality of "us" against/versus against "em" is one of the most core cognition in humans that brought us together and formed into groups/factions/communities/clan/tribe/gang/etc. We human arent isolated beings, that's a reason why thousands of scientists labeled us as social beings, not just because we socialize, but we tends to, desires to, have to socialize and acquire the feeling of "not alone", being as part of the group, in order to obtain something from it.

Most ppl felt comfortable when they are with friends (selectively tho), mates, or family members as compared to when they are not, as during the process of interaction or in lay-man's term 'get to know' each other's period, we somehow managed to create a bond (could be one sided) with each other. It would take longer time to form this kind of relationship or affiliation depending on the criteria you have in making friends. As far as i know, some ppl are very particular with their friends, they must have certain qualities or attributes in em already, if not, he/she will just labeled you as "hi-bye accquaintances" (e.g must have model looking outlook, must have at least a car, or must share at least 2-3 similar hobbies/interests with me, etc)

The definition of friendship is very subjective, it's hard to define in a proper or accurate manner, as it varies between gender (even), across culture, and even age group in my oppinion. It is true that, ppl often flock on to each other, based on the few core elements: a) similarities in interest, cognition, or behaviors (ah beng find ah lian, geek find nerds, bimbo find macho, low key find low profile, that kinda of grouping), b) diversities or differences in interest, cognition, or behaviors (normally happened in cross-gender friendships), c) environmental condition (meaning, the pool of friends you gather depends on the area you mingle around, it's fairly logical, as it's hard for you to make a papua new guinean friend if you havent even leave malaysia n all). Nonetheless, the way we choose our friends very much depending on the intention, or any other cognition behind the reason of it, as some ppl make friends just simply because they love to, some people make friends just because of convenience, some ppl have some ulterior motives, some people couldnt care less and flock around, some people couldnt care less and stay home and make his computer his best and only friend, etc.

So, why am i making such a big thing or spending so much effort on trying to ellaborate bout friendships or human interaction? Because i m bored? Because I m lacking it? Because i have too many friends? Because I am confused? ar nga

The reason is pretty simple, what I am trying to say here is, people differ from each other in such a huge degree (hence, unique) and that's the reason why we kept making friends (because you cant grew boredom of meeting new faces unless you are fixated with the goddess faces morphing in your computer monitor), at the same time, that's also the reason why we shouldn't judge people based on anything, as we do not have the capability, rights, accuracy of judgment and anything to make such comment and labeled them as something, therefore heck racism, f8ck the 'us against em' system (unless you are playing some competitive team game, e.g. soccer, if that's the case.. DIE CHELSEA DIE!!!), dice and shred down all the stereotypes you have. Some people might have their own intention or ulterior motive to get near to you, and yes it might induce certain sources of harm to you, but by slamming shut your door and forbidding the rest of the nice nice people outside from getting to know you, geez, you gotta learn how to grow up and stop that "i don't friend you" kindergarten mentality. And yes, rivalry relationship is considered as healthy depending on context and conditions, even sibling rivalry could be beneficial (but not to extent where involving guns n knives n so on).

Oh yea, havent i revealed the reason for me to write down all these rantings? hehe, let's keep it subtle and not to be too probing... hehe, as curiosity often leads cat to death.




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